5 Reasons You Should Never Go Back To Someone Who’s Hurt You
We’ve all been there: broken and in need of repair. Last thing they told us when they left was that they couldn’t forgive us or that we should try to move on. We know how awful rejection feels and how badly we wish we got back together with our past love.
But this is not how things should be like. They’ve taken you for granted, they’ve let go of you when you needed them. So here’s why you should never go back to someone who’s hurt you.
1. They will never change
They promise you that they’ve changed and you tell yourself that things will be different this time around. But chances are, things will be exactly the same and you know this. People rarely change. Instead of turning a blind eye and hoping for the best, stand up for yourself and learn to say no. Your optimism will do little to change the situation and you will find yourself continually making excuses for their behavior.
2. You must learn how to move on
If they’re already over you or just drowning their sorrow in video games, then why shouldn’t you do the same? They’ve hurt you really badly but somehow you still crave going back to the relationship. This is because it feels comfortable to return to what’s familiar. But don’ fall into this trap. It is very likely that the old habits and patterns will come back and you’ll be heartbroken again.
3. They will hurt you again.
Because they’ve done it once, chances are they’ll do it again. This is why you could never be happy and at peace in a relationship that has already been through this. Also, you need to be happy with yourself first. You can’t expect them to come along and unbreak you and put you back on your feet. This is something you have to go through alone.
4. You will never be a priority
Your needs and feelings will always take a backseat to theirs’. Your relationship will always come second and the other person will rarely have time to ‘deal’ with you. Instead of feeling like a friend or partner; you will constantly feel like a burden instead. Your relationship will exist sorely to boost the other person’s ego and needs while you ignore your hurt feelings. They will treat you as though your needs and decisions hold no importance and do not matter at all.
5. You deserve better
Don’t settle for less just because you feel you may never find love again. You deserve people in your life who treat you kindly and who offer support when you need it the most. Enough with the blaming. As tempting as you may find it to go back to them, know that this will perpetuate their ill treatment of you.
This will turn out to be a long and complex healing process, but you should know that this will make room for other people in you life. Once you realize you deserve so much more, you will be able to find love again.
