I found out my husband was having an aff:a:ir. But what hurt almost as much was discovering that my daughter knew about it the whole time, and never tried to war:n me. I distanced from her to heal and started dating someone.
Out of nowhere, she called me in tears, accusing me of ‘replacing her.’ To top it off, my ex-husband later called me, furious, accusing me of ‘leaving’ my daughter for a ‘younger man and a new family.
The betrayal from my daughter stung almost as much as the a:ffa:ir itself. At the time, I decided not to confront her daughter directly, thinking it would be too much for her to handle, especially with college on the horizon. Instead, I just told daughter that I knew, and after my daughter left, I pulled back emotionally, not calling or texting her as much.
Fast-forward a year and a half, and I started dating a 41-year-old man who has a 10-year-old daughter from a previous relationship. The new boyfriend planned a big Disney trip for his daughter’s birthday and invited them, along with his daughter’s cousins.
He covered all the expenses as a gift for his kid. I thought it was a sweet gesture, but when my daughter saw photos from the trip on social media, things went south.
My daughter didn’t call me for over a month. When she finally did, it was a full-blown meltdown. She accused me of cutting her out of my life and replacing her with the boyfriend and his daughter. Through tears, the daughter explained she had kept the aff:a:ir a secret because she was scared and thought she was doing the right thing.
On top of that, the ex-husband jumped in, accusing me of being selfish and abandoning their daughter for her “new family.” The irony of the moral is that he’s dating a 30-year-old girlfriend, but he doesn’t seem to think that counts as moving on.
Things got messier. I feel awful that he found out, but there’s no way to undo it now, and it’s added another layer of family drama.
In her Reddit post, the woman admitted she feels stuck. She loves her daughter but says every conversation brings up old wounds, and she’s not sure how to let it go. She’s been going to therapy and trying her best, but she feels torn between protecting herself and trying to rebuild the relationship.
