The secret to changing your spouse is that your spouse must want to change, and they must not feel coerced or forced into doing something they don’t want to do. If you can manage to achieve this ideal situation you create a win-win scenario that will delight and serve both of you.
Here are some steps to help you inspire change in your spouse
1. Lead them out of their comfort zone.
Most of the time, people are too scared to go out of their comfort zone either because of a suffered trauma from their past experiences or the anxiety of just facing new and unfamiliar things and circumstances. Let your love give them enough strength to face the world without fears.
Be their strength and their refuge and let them know that if things get rough out there, you’ll be there to hold their hand and face the world together.
2. Encourage them to choose optimism and positivity.
Don’t let them drown in self-pity and unnecessary emotions especially during the hardest times. Let them realize that when life gives you lemons, you can always make the best and tastiest lemonade – together.
3. Inspire them to be more ambitious and determined.
Let your partner fly and inspire them to achieve their goals without letting your commitment be a burden. Instead of overprotecting them from what’s out there, give them wings to soar higher. At the end of the day, they’ll come home to you.
4. Assure them that being assertive is a good thing.
Especially for girls who are not really confident when it comes to expressing their own opinion and fighting for their ideals. For guys, make your girl feel that what she thinks matters – regardless of what society thinks; girls can be equally powerful and successful and they have every right to be ambitious, to fight for what they believe in. Be a great sidekick and a reliable cheerleader.
5. Help them trust themselves.
Never let your partner feel that their decisions are always wrong and that they are incapable of making the right choices. The last thing you want to do is to make them feel that they can’t trust their own instincts and that they cannot rely on their own judgment especially at times when their confidence is all they have left.
6. Make them understand the importance of physical and emotional health.
Relationships are not just about romance or passion. True love and having a healthy relationship are about nurturance and growth – physically and emotionally.
It’s important to motivate your partner to subscribe to a healthier lifestyle. Why don’t you do something fun, productive and nurturing? Work out together, enjoy other hobbies, relax and just be with nature?
7. Show them how to accept their imperfections.
As a partner, you must make it your personal mission to make your significant other see how beautiful and how perfect they are in their own ways. Love them so hard that they can feel how truly special they are. Hug them so tight until they break the mask that prevents them from seeing their true inner beauty.
8. Just let them be whatever they want to be.
As long as it’s not hurting them. We do not have the right to demand someone to change and be a different person just because what they are doesn’t fit our definition of what is good and perfect. That’s why it’s important to be reminded that the only time it is fair to influence someone’s ideas, thoughts and beliefs if these aspects of their personality are starting to lead them astray.
It’s important that we should be there to inspire and encourage our significant other to be a better person – not based on our own definition nor on our desire to be in control of another human being. You should always keep in mind that as a partner, you have to accept your significant other for what they are and what they can become. It is your role to inspire them to be better person but it is not your right to force them to change.
