Why Some People Are Afraid of Love
Being in love is a wonderful experience, rather it is one of the best experiences of anyone’s life. Being in a relationship with the person one loves has its own charm. However, not everyone would agree to this. No matter how romantic the idea of being in love might be, there are people who are scared of being in a relationship. They are called by many names—love cynics, commitment phobics, anti-romantics etc. But have you ever wondered what makes these people stay away from this beautiful experience? Below are some reasons Why Some People Are Afraid of Love
1. Love brings real pain
Sometimes, love also brings sadness and disappointment at times. Some people are scared of being in love: they think something disappointing might happen that will destroy their happiness and turn it into a cloud of loneliness, sadness, and pain. Owing to that, when it comes to love, there might be a reluctance to get into a relationship for fear of pain and disappointment.
2. Love stirs up existential fears
There is always some fear that keeps you from falling in love even if you are trying to start a serious relationship. The more you build a solid love foundation with that person, the more you are afraid of losing him/her. You might fear being apart, or be worried about disagreements, fights, and other concerns that may end your relationship. Whatever the case, you feel safer being single.
3. Fear of social disruption
Some people are afraid of what their friends and family might say about their relationship. Getting close to your partner distances you from your family and friends. Although sometimes family or friends’ opinions matter, other times their opinion may change or cloud your personal decision. This can be very depressing if you are close to your family or friends.
4. Love is often unequal
One of the major reasons why relationships break is because there is an imbalance of love between the two partners. You might find yourself loving your partner too much and at the same time doubting if they reciprocate the love. You may end up not feeling satisfied, or feel irritation and even hate towards the person you love. Allowing fear of love to get in between you and the person you love will hinder you from being happy and forming a long-lasting relationship.
5. New love stirs up past hurts
Perhaps the fear of love happens when people recollect the past; maybe from a disturbed childhood, lousy past love experiences, or failed relationships that tend to blind them to the future. They worry about falling in love because they are afraid it will trigger past hurts, rejection, anger or they are frightened that they will be heartbroken again. When this happens, they get scared to start all over again.
