These 6 Words Have The Power To Ruin Every Relationship. Consider Before You Say Them
The things we say turn out to be more influential than we believe they are. That’s why we need to be impeccable with our words, especially when it comes to relationships.
Here are six words you must be extremely careful with if you want to keep your connection with your loved one strong and healthy.
1. Always
Telling your partner that they always do something you dislike or that you always have certain issues with them is only going to make the situations worse. This word is something that is used to avoid things. Instead of working through the issue you’re just making your partner seem wrong and refusing to see things through.
2. Whatever
“Sure, whatever.” In case your partner is trying to explain something to you, and all you say is ‘whatever’, this is a clear sign you don’t care about what they’re trying to tell you. This leaves them feeling unimportant and unappreciated. So, if they respect themselves enough, they wouldn’t stand you treating them like they’re insignificant, and will move on without you.
3. Divorce/Breakup
If your first thought when you’re fighting with your partner is to suggest that you just end things, you’re already causing more problems than you realize. When you get heated suggesting an end to things is never the answer. You should suggest maybe walking away for a few hours and talking things out once you’ve both calmed down but if you don’t want to break up, stop suggesting it.
4. Never
“Why you’re never doing that?” Similar to the word ‘always’, this word is mainly used as an accusation. It can make your partner feel as if they were backed against a wall. If there is something that truly bothers you, try to be more mindful of the way you express it. Also, always consider the context of what you’re saying.
5. But
When you use this word you’re making the things you already said mean less. This for instance when followed negatively after you’ve given someone a compliment can tear them down. They feel unappreciated and as if they can never do anything right.
6. You
“Of course it was you.” In such a context, the word ‘you’ feels like you’re pointing a finger at your partner. Constantly blaming them for everything that’s not working in your relationship will eventually make them realize they’re not being appreciated and they need to leave. If you want to avoid such an outcome, next time when you’re about to blame something on them, make sure what you’re saying is true and necessary to be said.
